I pass by the cemetery where Daisy is buried every day. I used to stop every single day. Lately it's been less frequent and I feel as though I've almost been avoiding it for some reason. For about the last week I've noticed a bright spot of yellow near her grave and so today I stopped to see what the new item was. There was a cute little bouquet of artificial daffodils sticking up out of the ground and it made me wonder who had placed them there. It was interesting because when I usually visit the grave I am sad. I cry amongst the ants and grass burrs. But today upon noticing the yellow flowers I smiled. There's something about the color yellow. It symbolizes happiness and warmth. And that is exactly what those flowers did for me. It made me happy that someone remembered my baby. It warmed my heart. And made me wonder.
I asked my mother-in-law if she had placed them there because she's the only one I could think of that routinely visits the grave other than me. She said no, that she hadn't been there in a while and I continued to be baffled. And then I realized there are more people that care about my daughter than just myself and my family. There are people out there that watched my belly grow. There are people that held my hand the day she died. There are people who brought my family food when we couldn't find the motivation to even enter the kitchen. There are people who sent cards and flowers. There are people who didn't know what to say but gave the best hugs in the world. It doesn't matter who left the flowers. All that matters is that there are more people out there than I realize on a day-to-day basis that care for me, my family, and Daisy.
While coming to this realization I had another. I was terrible about getting thank you cards out after Daisy's death. That has got to be one of the worst things you have to do after your child dies...write thank you notes. I remember the first time I sat down to do them and I nearly threw up. It took me awhile and then I tackled them again. I had stamps for about half and sent them. The other half sat in my truck until yesterday, yes yesterday, 8 months later, when I put stamps on them and mailed them out. There were a handful that I didn't have addresses for and never asked around. I had the biggest lack of motivation for those cards. It isn't because I am not thankful. I am so thankful for those kindnesses that I can't even express it! Those kind acts got my family through this tragedy! I couldn't follow through with those thank you notes because every time I sent one out it was like it was closer and closer to her death(life) being "over."
I learned something from those yellow daffodils. Happiness can be found through the kindness of others. The smallest gestures can heal my broken heart. And while I will never be completely healed, I will be better. I will keep going. I will be strong. I will be a yellow daffodil to someone else.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.